Slow down.


Vivi goes everywhere at a full-tilt run now. For someone for whom time must seem to move so slow, she’s in a near constant rush to get to the next thing.

I think she gets that from me. Lately, we’ve been thinking a lot about next steps for our family. It’s something we’re always discussing and dreaming about, but just because you have a plan doesn’t mean you take every step at once.

I’m not good at patience. When I know how I want to decorate a new apartment, I want to. It everything at once so it’s done rather than wait and budget. When we plan a trip, I want to pack NOW and get on the plane tomorrow, which is an impossible way of life with a toddler.

When I watch Vivi take off, arms pumping and feet stomping with all their might, I want to scoop her into my arms and snuggle her too tight to let her keep moving. Too tight for her to keep growing up.

It doesn’t work that way, of course. Vivi keeps on growing even in my arms. Just like time will continue to march on whether I’m there counting the seconds or not.

Part of why I’ve continued this blog is because it’s my living diary. It allows me to reflect on so many important parts of my life and be right back in that moment. I thought about quitting it many times, but, in all seriousness, I kept it because I always felt like it would be a nice way to remember my hypothetical child’s life too. That’s a big part of why I’ve kept it around this far. So when I look at Vivi rushing around to the next thing, changing every single day, literally over night, I’m reminded of how important it is to record. To remember.

So relax. Stop and smell the roses. Why be anxious about tomorrow and all that. Like I said, I’m working on it.

And maybe my precocious little toddler is just the daily reminder I need to savor the moment.

And while I have your attention…

Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post. As usual, y’all restore my faith in humanity almost every time I let myself show a weakness, and I truly appreciate it. 

3 thoughts on “Slow down.

  1. Hey Justine,
    I just wanted to say that I enjoy your updates and your blog, all the topics. I know what that’s like, struggling with things and relevancy. But I think that since you’ve come this far, you should keep up the good work, although don’t put pressure on yourself, it’s alright to take time to yourself and not feel compelled to post unless you really want to. Vivi looks great; thought you recently since I went back to school and changed careers to teaching, I’ve been student teaching in Forest Hills and there are 2 Vivi’s in my school, which I found to be pretty cool! Both of them are very active, sweet, and inquisitive. Sounds like you should be proud of your gal and for that comes along in the future ahead 🙂

  2. Enjoyed your thoughts on looking back and reflecting on all you’ve accomplished. I know you wish things happened faster in some respects, like moving on and slower in others, Vivi growing up so fast. Love you. Patience is hard.

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